Curiosity is innocent, but it is not naïve. It doesn’t quite know what’s going on, but it is more than willing to listen and to learn, to gain greater wisdom, awareness, and insight.It’s hard to stay curious when we hear about the big issues, challenges, and conflicts, but with focused energy and attention, we can ignite our curiosity and change how we relate to others.

Try to understand and avoid judgments. Judging shuts down curiosity. It stops us from thinking, feeling, and caring about where others are coming from. In today’s political climate, judgments can happen before we even realize it. Try to really pay attention and when you find yourself judging, stop, take a few deep breaths, and start asking questions. Seeking to understand will free you from judgment and get your curiosity in the game again.

Read, watch, explore something that stretches you. Take 10-15 minutes each day to read or watch something that you would not normally be drawn to. For example, if you tend to read political articles, try to find an article about a new scientific discovery, or an essay on life from a thoughtful, inspired writer. Stretch yourself daily. You’ll be surprised by the results.

Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to get curious with the people you encounter. It’s a great way to learn more and deepen your relationships.

Ask yourself some real questions. Why do you believe the things you do? Why are you behaving the way you do? Really take a look at what’s moving and motivating you.

Once we’re able to ignite our curiosity, the other healing qualities of true leadership can come into play. We can appreciate the qualities and values and commitment of others (even the ones we don’t agree with), and we can begin to understand what they truly need and want. Igniting your curiosity is the first step?

How are you firing up your curiosity?